The final three steps prepare us for a future of long-term recovery. These last steps
encourage consistent patterns of mind that help us correct our codependent slips as
they happen, so that they happen less. We don’t want to return to the
unmanageability that brought us to CoDA in the first place.
Step Eleven reads, “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.”
The essence of this step is to know that we are not alone—our Higher Power is a constant force in our lives, if we let it be.
The Codependents Anonymous book offers that we talk to our Higher Power
through prayer, and we receive their message through meditation (page 71). We
must truly listen to the message from our Higher Power: one of the things that
brought us to CoDA was ignoring it. “As we grow through our daily practice of Step
Eleven, we are truly allowing God to control our daily lives and recovery. Our fears
decrease and we come to trust that all we need to meet each day is provided for by
our Higher Power” (Codependents Anonymous, page 75).
Any relationship requires intentional care and maintenance and our relationship
with our Higher Power is no different. Step Eleven guides us in maintaining
conscious contact with our Higher Power. This is a life-long practice that operates
every minute of every day.
As I close this blog post, I wonder:
- What does prayer/meditation look like for you? Do you need to
improve those practices?
- How do you talk to your Higher Power? How do you listen?
- How do you know if you are receiving a message from your Higher
Power? Are you aware of any signs that indicate you are ignoring your
Higher Power’s will/direction?
- What will happen if you ignore your Higher Power’s will for you?